Question by Ms.D: If someone “ruins” you, what are your thoughts on revenge?
My best friend purchased a business early last year and the person who introduced her to this “business opportunity” was friends with the current owner, who raked her over the coals. My friend always tries to trust and see the best in everyone and when I expressed my concerns, she understood, but just kept trying her own thing. Red flag after red flag, I kept trying to steer her away from this woman, but no such luck. The woman who introduced her to the idea had plans all along to get my friend to sell HER product along with what was already established. As my friends business started to flourish, this woman’s business went under – twice in the span of one year.

Needless to say, my friend tried to help her out by selling her a piece of her business at a 90% discount because she knew she didn’t have the money. (and also worked for this woman for FREE for 6 months while she was trying to figure out her next business step). About a week or 2 later, this woman she tried to help, ended up turning on her and put MY FRIENDS business under. She has since “stolen” all of her accounts (because she was trusted with that information when my friend hired her to help out when things were rough after this woman’s first business went under). Then just this week, called the proper authorities (all friends of hers and her husbands or course) to inspect my friends business with a fine tooth comb, knowing that she was still having a few growing pains, there had to be something she could find to cause problems for her business. And that she did. They worked every angle they could and shut her down immediately.

Here’s the kicker – the part of the business that my friend sold at that huge discounted rate to help this woman out, is now taken over her territory and started the business under her name, with what she has to work with, in the same fashion that my friend was – only she’s not getting shut down because of knowing who she knows.

My friend has been nothing but the epitome of perfect credit and financial, now she’s bankrupt.

After this very long, drawn out story (and that’s only part of it), I helped my friend start this company. 6 months of 18-20 hour work days 7 days a week to get things going and I am SO infuriated with the woman I never trusted from day 1, planned all this behind her back the whole time.

My struggle is Karma. I severely want to take this woman and any business that she gets involved in and ruin her. There’s a list of things that I would love to do to her, but I’ve never been the revenge type. I truly believe in Karma and what goes around comes around, but I’m really struggling to not be the “what comes around” part in this situation. Do I leave it in the hands of the Karmic Universe or do I (we) respond in kind of some sort.

BTW, this woman still owes my friend thousands of dollars when she tried to help her start up her first business.

Any advice on how to handle my struggle as far as “dealing” with the situation. I’m a hot blooded Sicilian who you just keep poking at and one day I just EXPLODE.

Do I take some matters into my own hands or do I let the universe handle it?

Best answer:

Answer by Yon Gamarra
First you should consider that your friend brought this upon herself. Maybe for trusting too much, not being assertive enough, being afraid fo success, feeling gilt or like not deserving better, not clear goals, too much desire of being liked, or being helpful to others…

Your best option is to help your friend to find out where she is now, find out where she wants to be tomorrow, plot a way to get there from here. Start moving in that direction.

Forget about the other woman, she is just something that a dog let on the sidewalk and nobody bagged. Is in your shoes now and you can smell it. Getting mad doesn’t help. Clean your sole on the grass and keep walking.

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Question by Ms.D: If someone “ruins” you, what are your thoughts on revenge?
My best friend purchased a business early last year and the person who introduced her to this “business opportunity” was friends with the current owner, who raked her over the coals. My friend always tries to trust and see the best in everyone and when I expressed my concerns, she understood, but just kept trying her own thing. Red flag after red flag, I kept trying to steer her away from this woman, but no such luck. The woman who introduced her to the idea had plans all along to get my friend to sell HER product along with what was already established. As my friends business started to flourish, this woman’s business went under – twice in the span of one year.

Needless to say, my friend tried to help her out by selling her a piece of her business at a 90% discount because she knew she didn’t have the money. (and also worked for this woman for FREE for 6 months while she was trying to figure out her next business step). About a week or 2 later, this woman she tried to help, ended up turning on her and put MY FRIENDS business under. She has since “stolen” all of her accounts (because she was trusted with that information when my friend hired her to help out when things were rough after this woman’s first business went under). Then just this week, called the proper authorities (all friends of hers and her husbands or course) to inspect my friends business with a fine tooth comb, knowing that she was still having a few growing pains, there had to be something she could find to cause problems for her business. And that she did. They worked every angle they could and shut her down immediately.

Here’s the kicker – the part of the business that my friend sold at that huge discounted rate to help this woman out, is now taken over her territory and started the business under her name, with what she has to work with, in the same fashion that my friend was – only she’s not getting shut down because of knowing who she knows.

My friend has been nothing but the epitome of perfect credit and financial, now she’s bankrupt.

After this very long, drawn out story (and that’s only part of it), I helped my friend start this company. 6 months of 18-20 hour work days 7 days a week to get things going and I am SO infuriated with the woman I never trusted from day 1, planned all this behind her back the whole time.

My struggle is Karma. I severely want to take this woman and any business that she gets involved in and ruin her. There’s a list of things that I would love to do to her, but I’ve never been the revenge type. I truly believe in Karma and what goes around comes around, but I’m really struggling to not be the “what comes around” part in this situation. Do I leave it in the hands of the Karmic Universe or do I (we) respond in kind of some sort.

BTW, this woman still owes my friend thousands of dollars when she tried to help her start up her first business.

Any advice on how to handle my struggle as far as “dealing” with the situation. I’m a hot blooded Sicilian who you just keep poking at and one day I just EXPLODE.

Do I take some matters into my own hands or do I let the universe handle it?

Best answer:

Answer by Yon Gamarra
First you should consider that your friend brought this upon herself. Maybe for trusting too much, not being assertive enough, being afraid fo success, feeling gilt or like not deserving better, not clear goals, too much desire of being liked, or being helpful to others…

Your best option is to help your friend to find out where she is now, find out where she wants to be tomorrow, plot a way to get there from here. Start moving in that direction.

Forget about the other woman, she is just something that a dog let on the sidewalk and nobody bagged. Is in your shoes now and you can smell it. Getting mad doesn’t help. Clean your sole on the grass and keep walking.

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